How do you talk to yourself… Do you beat yourself up when you feel less than perfect? Me too 🙁 I think most of us do. Would you talk to someone you deeply care about, the way you talk to yourself? Would you talk to a stranger that way? Or maybe it’s a loved one pouring their heart out to you, being hard on themselves. How would you feel? Would you listen with an understanding and compassionate ear? Probably.
I recently attended a group Self Compassion class that was organized by an amazing therapist that I work with. Before attending this class, I didn’t put much thought into self kindness. I honestly think that most people just get through the day longing for acceptance, love and to feel appreciated by others. We feel inadequate when we stand up for ourselves or say no. We don’t want to feel selfish, right?
This way of neglecting ourselves can sometimes lead us down a path of feeling depressed, isolated and lonely.
Self Compassion not Criticism, Motivates Self Improvement.
Can you think of a time when you felt:
What were some of the things you said to yourself? How did you feel about yourself? Just imagine for a second, you gave yourself the kind of love and compassion you give to others when they feel this way… Not only to you feel warm and fuzzy, but there are so many other wonderful benefits to loving yourself.
Benefits of Practicing Self Compassion
- Increases Motivation
- Boosts Happiness by creating
- Better Body Image
- Decreased self body shame
- Greater appreciation towards your body
- Enhances Self Worth
- Self compassion comes from within
- Practicing allows you to feel good about yourself despite failures, inadequacies, and imperfections
- Encourages Resilience to Adversity
- Improved emotional healing following separation or divorce
- Reduces Psychological Stress
- Decreased mental health issues (anxiety, depression, decreasing the harmful effects of stress.
Self love and compassion can take some serious practice. It’s hard to get into a habit of being a certain way, when we’re not used to it. YOU ARE NOT ALONE, reach out to a loved one, a therapist… practice journaling, get lost in a book, go visit an animal shelter (if you love animals)…. You can even send me an email if you need a place to vent, I will totally listen and be an encouraging voice to help you practice 🙂
Living Fearlessly starts with learning to absolutely LOVE yourself!! Once you start being kind to yourself, not only will you feel amazing psychologically, your performance and level of success (whatever it means for you) will change. I would love to hear about how you show yourself compassion today.